Marriage Counselling Calgary

How to find a marriage counselor in Calgary.

Are you in Calgary and seeking Couples Counselling Services or Christian Marriage Counselling?

Are you seeking ways to resolve conflict or longing to feel closer to each other?

Are you feeling lost and desperate for healing after your partner's infidelity or affair?

If any of the above questions sound familiar then Henze and Associates: Counselling and Care can help.
For over nineteen years, helping couples become closer, more connected and masterful at resolving anger and conflict has been our focus and our specialty!

Read on for more information on the marriage counselling services we offer or follow this link to request a Couples Therapy Calgary appointment today.

Calgary Marriage Counselling Services

Shape your future and transform your life through personalized Couples psychological counselling services.

First steps of Marriage Counselling: Assessment: The first session is always about exploration. We take the time to talk through both the good and the difficult areas of your relationship with a special focus on the perspectives you each bring and the steps you have taken in the past to try and address the concerns you are facing.

Everyone has their own unique love story that grew as you each became attracted to the other and formed countless positive memories. We start with a review of that journey of love and passion and discover how it fits into the larger picture of your family background and larger life story.

We take the time to understand your communication styles, to clarify your areas of strength and understand how you attach, show affection, demonstrate intimacy, support, trust and spend time together as a couple and discover strengths we can build upon.

It's about setting a course! The purpose of the Calgary Couples Counselling assessment phase is gathering information and understanding the patterns and themes of your relationship. We want to know what you define as successful marriage counselling.

We help you clarify your goals and develop your own vision of the marriage you desire as we jointly begin to build towards the close and loving relationship you both want and need.

  1. FAMILY BACKGROUND - Often we start with a review of your family background and the beginnings of your journey together: Your personal love story, your attraction to each other and the positive memories you built as your relationship blossomed!
  2. COMMUNICATION STYLES - We take the time to understand how you each connect, ask for love, express desire, show vulnerability and nurture each other. Only a small part of marital communication is verbal and we walk with you as you learn to listen beneath the words and speak your partner's language.
  3. ATTACHMENT PATTERNS - Our childhood experiences teach us how to understand love and relationship. If our pasts have taught us to see others incorrectly, we may sometimes relate in fearful, posessive or dismissive ways. Understanding those patterns is key to changing them so you can get the love that you want. Experience real change now!

You're in control! Ultimately, we want to identify your goals and catch your vision for your marriage as we together begin to work towards the stable and satisfying relationship you both desire.

Next steps of Marriage Counselling: Understanding and Connection: Let's face it, it's far too easy to focus on annoying differences or get caught up in only seeing the negative parts of our relationships, such that we neglect each other's needs and grow further and further apart. We usually know what we should be doing, we just hurt too bad to do it.

The best couples therapy Calgary has to offer will always be focused on helping you to become more connected in love and friendship. Often we have to ask couples to temporarily put aside some of their hot-button issues while we work to restore an emotional climate of connection in the relationship. 

Rebuilding patterns of connection that create security, love and belonging helps each of you to associate your spouse with good and positive feelings.

Marriage is primarily about being there for our spouse and regularly meeting his or her needs for security, love, and belonging. But, sometimes it's difficult to even know what those needs are, much less understand how to meet them. We use a combination of teaching sessions and in session practical skills training that include communication exercises, practical conflict resolution skills, sex therapy exercises and so much more!

It becomes so much easier to work through difficult issues once the emotional climate of the marriage starts to improve. That's why the Calgary couples counselling we offer always starts with restoring and then nurturing love before we go to work on identifying and changing the behaviors that steal love away from your relationship.

The security of a couple's attachment always matters far more than achieving perfect agreement on issues
  1. CONFLICT RESOLUTION - Long before the wedding day, couples begin to form their own interconnected family system. They develop patterns of communication, unwritten rules of conflict, perceptions of each other and react to each other out of beliefs likely held since childhood. Some of those patterns are positive and draw the couple together, while others result in vicious cycles of conflict that can take on a life of their own. Fix it today!
  2. MARRIAGE MEDIATION CALGARY - The best marriage counselling Calgary can offer to those trapped in those constant cycles of vicious conflict will always start with helping each person take responsibility for their own part in both making the pattern and replacing it with much more life giving options.
  3. HEALTHY MARRIAGE - There is no such thing as a, "Perfect marriage," and some problems may never be fully solved. Accepting imperfection in some areas while learning skills of negotiation and creativity in problem solving in others create much happier marriages than a demand for perfection ever will. Healthy marriages are places where people accept each other, focus on positives, build upon their strengths and take responsibility for their perceptions and belief systems.

Marriage Counseling Calgary: Preventing relapse and solidifying change!

If you've read this far, we know you take your marriage seriously, you're looking for the best Psychologist in Calgary and you're looking for real and lasting change that endures and grows ever stronger as the years go by. We're here to help you achieve that!

In the latter stages of couples counselling, we walk with you as you put all of the pieces together and solidify the gains made in warmth, respect, trust, intimacy and supportive time spent together.  Real and lasting change grows as the focus shifts to the strengths the couple enjoys and the positive solutions they have developed together.

Once both spouses feel they have made and maintained the progress they hoped for, we usually suggest spacing out the couples therapy sessions from weekly to monthly and then quarterly to help you ensure the permanence of all you have already accomplished.

This is a time of fine tuning the change that has already occurred and troubleshooting any issues that may still arise. It's also a time of planning and following through on strategies to prevent relapse. While there are always bumps and potholes on the road of marital change, together we can make the journey as smooth as possible.

Too many couples fail to take smaller problems seriously and wait until their marriages are in dire straits before they seek help. Even those marriages can heal - but the extra pain is so unnecessary. 

Calgary Couples Counselling: Book now! The earlier a couple reaches out for help, the quicker and and easier it is for their closeness and harmony to be restored.

We believe that if a couple walks down the aisle and stands before a minister or a Justice of the Peace and vows to remain together and cherish each other, "As long as they both shall live," then we need to take that vow very seriously and do everything we can both to keep that marriage together and also make it a fantastic place to be!

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