Couples Therapy Calgary: Our approach In his now world famous studies of marital satisfaction and stability, Dr. John Gottman found that it isn't the presence or absence of conflict that determines if a marriage will succeed or fail. Rather, it is how couples choose to deal with their conflict that predicts the stability of a marriage - and their chances of divorce.
Turning hearts towards each other: John Gottman teaches that, when a couple learns to turn towards each other in love, friendship and mutual respect and then handles disagreements in a respectful manner that maintains connection and positive feelings for each other, conflict can be incredibly safe and even beneficial to a marriage. Book with us today!
While John Gottman's decade spanning research offers us many down to earth and practical strategies for developing strong and healthy marriages, it was really one of his chief students - Dr. Sue Johnson - who took his principles and integrated them into a school of therapy called Emotion Focused Therapy for Couples and an even more advanced skill set called Emotion Focused Therapy for Couples with Trauma. (Both of which are integral to our approach.)
Sue Johnson's Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is all about learning to express deep feelings and needs in a way that both creates emotional safety and compassion and leads to productive conversation about solutions. It's about recognizing that if we co-create negative patterns of relationship, then we can be equally powerful in creating positive ones that build marriages of love, acceptance and passion!
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is one of the most well researched and proven effective forms of couples therapy. Calgary marriage counselling clients we see experience an eclectic blend of Emotionally Focused Therapy and psycho-educational teaching that helps them get far beyond the simple answers and really heal.
Creating partnerships that heal: Our skills in EFT combine with exercise based skill learning so positive interaction patterns flow naturally into ever greater feelings of security, closeness and attachment.
Really healling marriage always requires a three way partnership between therapist. husband and wife. It's about building a team and then making sure that the skills for that team to win are present and working well together. Find out how you can change your marriage forever - today!